Ask the Hot Dads #5

Once again, our loyal readers have turned to us, the Hot Dads, for help with their lives. Why? Cause we are bursting with knowledge and we are amazing.

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And here we go:


Question #1
Do you a think that the longer you are with a partner, you have less desire to do sexual things that won't result in sex? I have been talking to several female friends, and everyone's experience seems to be that their men were very interested in making out, groping, etc in the early days of their relationship, even if they knew they weren't going to be getting anything more in the immediate future. As time goes on, those things tend to get relegated into the 'foreplay' category, and the men are only interested in these things if they are going to result in sex or a blowjob. From a male perspective, do you all think this is true?

Tent Camper says: I know that in many relationships, what you are describing occurs. I can say that when it happens in our house it usually is a direct result of both of us paying more attention to the kids, the household, jobs, etc…than each other. I has to be discussed and stopped. Make a date night…or at least a few nights a week where you only focus on one another. It can be difficult when you have kids (especially 6, like
we do) but both people have to admit that it is a problem and acknowledge that they want to remedy it. Get a sitter and go to a move…fondle each other …or have a picnic and fool around there…somewhere that you can’t “go all the way.”


Cameron says: YES. Here’s the deal….when we were courting you, we had to play all the games, even if it meant not getting any at the end of the day. Now that we’ve got you, we don’t have to play the games anymore. If you’re not gonna finish the game, we’re not gonna play.


Southern Sage says: Hmmmm This is a good question. I think this is true. I would go down her until she came without it ending in sex or a bj. I'm up for that anytime. But most acts kinda fall away unless its going to end up in sex, for me any act that ends up in her having an orgasm I'll do anytime without me having one so count that either way as far as your question is concerned.


Daddy Geek Boy says: I’m a guy so I’ve never been interested in doing sexual things that won’t result in sex. Since my hormones kicked in, my whole life has been about doing sexual things that will result in sex. When I was dating, sometimes making out or copping a feel would be all I could get, so I needed to be satisfied with that. But I’m married with two small kids and frankly, I don’t have a lot of time for making out that doesn’t go anywhere. That said, being intimate doesn’t have to lead directly to sex. A good morning make out session can be foreplay for that evening’s bedroom activities.


Hubman says: From my experience, that is not true. Veronica and I often find opportunities to make out, quickly fondle one another, etc. For us, foreplay can be an all-day event, especially when she sends me naughty texts during the day to mess with me at work! Of course, she and I are probably the exception, managing to have sex 6-8 times per week after 18 yrs together....


Question #2
What you think my husband is gay? I have point blank asked him at least 4 times and he has said no. His porn is gay and he has been on a gay site. ( I know Jeff Foxworthy would say here's your sign, lol) I have opened the closet door, won't he just come out?????"

Tent Camper says: Being that I don’t know him…It is hard difficult for me to say. I assume that there must be something with the male body or men fooling around that turns him on. That being said…it might be a good thing for you (in a sense). Maybe you can talk to him about having a threesome with another guy. Either you will all have a great time…or he will pay all of his attention on the other guy …but then you would have your answer…you just need to figure out what your plan of action would be in either case…your response must be quick and stern.

But what the hell do I know?


Cameron says: Do you still have sex with him? If yes, then he’s Bi. If no, then he’s gay. On the plus side, maybe this could end with you being in the middle of a sausage sandwich.


Southern Sage says: Bill Engvall is the here's your sign guy! Men can only be straight or gay, they can not in my opinion be bi. If they watch gay porn, visit gay sites or enjoy having a penis in their general vicinity that isn't attached to them, they are gay. If they have been with 600 women and one guy, they are gay. Chicks can be bi, guys can not. To answer your question, yes ma'am he's gay.


Daddy Geek Boy says: A gay person coming out of the closet is like trying to put a cat into its carrier to take it to the vet…if he don’t wanna do it, it’s not gonna happen. If your suspicions are correct there are probably a hundred reasons why your guy wants to stay closeted, which is his business. But if he is gay, it’s uncool of him to ask you to live this lie also. You’re not going to be able to badger him into coming out, but if his suspected preference is impacting your life you need to make him understand this.


Hubman says: Yes I do think he is, based on the little info you give us. Why won't he come out? Because he's likely scared of the social stigma some people associate with homosexuality.