Ask Hot Dads

Veronica asks: How important is it to you that a woman wear sexy underwear? What do you all consider sexy bedtime wear?

TentCamper says: This is a tricky subject for me…Mariah…rarely wears underwear….and I have to say that there ain’t nuttin wrong with a woman going commando. As for what I think is sexy, I’d have to say ‘cheekies’ with a bit of lace and a tank top.

DadsWhoMockTheWorld says: Somewhat, I want my woman to be comfortable with herself. That is sexy. Now if she is comfortable in something naughty, that is the best of both worlds. What do I consider sexy bedtime wear? Nightgowns (silk or satin, not the flannel), baby dolls, or, if I can get it, nude.

Dad’s House says: VERY important. Thongs are hot. Boyshorts are hotter. Granny underpants are a mood killer, to say the least.For bed - a T-shirt and panties is plenty sexy for me. Whatever I can get my hands into and under, and easily remove.

AlwaysHomeAndUncool says: Being the visually oriented creatures we are, sexy lingerie is a definite. Nudity is great and all, but after a while, one bare thang starts to look like another. Keep a little mystery alive and intrigue us. Often.

DaddyGeekBoy says: It depends. Are we going out? Are we staying in? Or are we just running to Target to pick up some toilet paper and diapers? Like all great things, some moderation is necessary. If they are worn all of the time, they can lose their seductive power. Think about how good that sexy lace thong is going to look after you’ve been wearing a big ol’ pair of granny panties for a few days. As for sexy bedtime wear? Why nothing at all.

Hubman Says: Well, my dear (Veronica is my wife, for those of you who didn't know that...), I love love love that your lingerie drawer consists of nothing but matching thong and panties sets, so it's very important to me. Wanna see, guys? Go check out her HNT on May 7th. I enjoying knowing what is underneath whatever conservative business attire you're wearing to the office. And I like it even more when you picture message me what you're wearing!Bedtime? Nothing more than a thong or g-string, and if you must, a t-shirt ;-)


ChocDrop asked: I know that for men sex is very important. But aside from sex, men… what are your wants/needs of being physical/intimate with your S.O. or whoever???

TentCamper says: There is something besides sex????? If so, and if I understand your question the right way, I’d have to say I love blow jobs and mutual (watching each other) masturbation…and public fondling - If you were getting at things like holding hands and hugging and stuff, I would say honesty and open communication.

DadsWhoMockTheWorld says: Conversation. Seriously. Not the details of the day to day minutiae, but vacation plans, or life, or books.

Dad’s House says: Huh? You can be physical/inimate without having sex? Um... huh?

AlwaysHomeAndUncool says: It is important for all people, according to Darwin; however, some of us have our priorities in a certain order. My wants and needs, like yours, depend on the time of day, the scenario, my mood, your mood, etc. Ask, suggest or just try something. I'll let you know when enough is too much or too little. I'm flexible that way and, once I take up yoga, I may be in many other ways, too.

DaddyGeekBoy says: Touch is very important. A rub of the shoulders. A caress of the arm. A light scratch at the small of the back. These are the intimate moments that are just as important as sex.

Hubman Says: Sex alone isn't enough, which is very good for me, since Veronica is very affectionate. We kiss numerous times throughout the day, randomly grope each other when the kids aren't looking (and sometimes when they are...). For us, it's almost like foreplay is a day long process. In terms of actual intimacy, sometimes she is my little fuck toy for me to use as I please, but sometimes what I really want is to turn out the lights, get under the covers, and make love with her. Fortunately, she feels the same way!


ChocDrop asked: Do you guys collect anything? If not, what would you collect?

TentCamper says: Besides porn….I collect hula girls. (not live ones…yet) the little bobble ones (or anything with a hula girl on it.)

DadsWhoMockTheWorld says: No. I take photos, so I guess I would collect photos.

Dad’s House says: I collect memories of my children. I also collect phone numbers of hot women, but that sounds sketchy, so I'll stick with my first answer.

AlwaysHomeAndUncool says: I collect pounds mostly because the exercise equipment in my basement collects dust. I'd prefer to collect royalty checks.

DaddyGeekBoy says: I have always been a collector. When I was a kid, it was rocks and dead batteries (I wish I was kidding). I’ve collected every ticket stub to every concert I’ve seen for the past 15 years. I was collecting Simpsons action figures for a while, until I ran out of room to house them. (Yes, they’re still in the boxes.) I’m currently collecting pieces of my sanity, which are hidden and scattered in the bedrooms of my children.

Hubman Says: Besides pornographic pictures? Seriously, not really and I don't know what I would, since I could if I wanted to. At this stage in my life is much more important to provide for my kids than to acquire 'stuff' for my own amusement.


Barney asks: For the last 6 yrs - I had a BFB (beneficial fuck buddy) recently we went our separate ways because I thought I wanted to be in a relationship...realized I didn’t - and now want the BFB back. In the process of ending it w/BFB, I guess I hurt his little feelings. How do I go about re-establishing our "get togethers" with no strings attached?

TentCamper says: I don’t know if you can. I do not know what you said or did to hurt him but if you have offered to get together with him and he said no…it may not be worth the trouble. Test him…be sitting on his front porch with nothing on but an overcoat and open it for him when he gets home. If that don’t work he is either done with you or he has a boyfriend or something.

Dad’s House says: Lose the BFB moniker. That sounds too touchy-feely. Go with FB, or FWB. If all else fails, turn to S&M. (Gotta love those monikers!)

DaddyGeekBoy says: Seems to me that if you’ve been sleeping with somebody for 6 years, you’ve been in a relationship. I don’t blame the guy for being hurt. Since it didn’t work out with this other person, you want to come back to what’s been comfortable. Frankly, I think you may have a tough road to climb. I think the only thing you can do is lay your cards on the table. Tell him what you want. See how he responds. But respect his wishes if he’s done and doesn’t want to go back.

Hubman Says: "Hurt his little feelings"? Are you being dismissive about how he feels? Because getting over that might be the first step. Be honest with him and let him know why you ended it, if you haven't already. Then you need to acknowledge that you hurt his feelings and that you're sorry for doing that to him. And, if you don't mean it, he'll know. If he accepts your apology, the door might be open for you to re-establish the relationship.Then again, us guys are dogs (well, I am....), and maybe he's already over the hurt feelings and is all set to fuck you again, given the chance ;-)