Monday, November 16, 2009

Ask Hot Dads

This week our resident know-it-all Hot Mama Shelle sent in a few questions...and I think that they are enough to fill your minds with what we, Hot Dads, know to be the truth.

Shelle asks:

How do guys tell a girl that is skanky from a girl that isn't? May sound like a weird question but every time I have gone out with co-workers it seems like the guys KNOW which girls are going to be a do you say...easy? Not that there is anything wrong with that, was just wondering how guys KNOW... ya know, kinda boggles my mind.

TentCamper says: A magician never tells...and yes...we Hot Dads do possess a certain level of magic within our loins. Above and beyond that, there is a lot to be said for opposites. By this I mean; when it comes to the way a woman dresses...the more she shows...the less she'll 'hide'.

Seriously though...It is pretty easy to see how a woman wants to be treated...and if you see a woman who wants to be come on just need to do that without doubt...having the confidence is half the battle. (so I've been told.)

DadsWhoMockTheWorld says: Can just tell by the way they carry themselves.

CanadianBaldGuy says:
It's a combination of things. How a woman dresses is a major part of it, but how she carries herself is the main way. Flirting...walking with swagger...subtle physical mannerisms...they all combine to make up the perception that a woman is "skanky".

Dadshouse says: The skanky women usually don't talk to me - they think I'm too clean cut! They typically want a "bad boy".

Southern Sage says: I am assuming Skanky=easy for the purpose of this question.
I don't know that I can tell who is easy or not. All chicks are easy for me though so I might not be the one who should answer this, maybe the rest of the guys will answer better. I can always tell if a chick wants me though. They look at me, and/or speak to me. Well that is all chicks that get turned on by tall, bald, poor, snuff dippin, truck drivin, deer killin rednecks who are 40 pounds overweight, yeah thats how I roll.

Hubman says: Skanky is kinda like obscene, I know it when I see it. But don't ask me to define it, other than she's dirty and not in a good way. One thing that does cry out "skanky" to me is a chick with lots of tattoos. And I'm not talking about a few tasteful tats here or there, that's cool. Oh yeah, cokeheads and heroin junkies are automatically skanky.

I don't equal skanky with easy. I've known a few easy chicks [hell, I'm married to one!], but I wouldn't call any of them skanky. But maybe they were just easy for me, since I'm so damn irresistable ;-)

Daddy Geek Boy says: Us guys have spent years trying to separate the wheat from the chaff and learn with which girls we might have a greater chance of seeing under a few layers of clothing. So there's a kind of an innate "skank detection" within all of us. (Not that knowing who was skanky and who wasn't did me any good, by the way.)

As dads that have daughters. Why is it okay to look at a hot girl online whose sole purpose is to turn you on, them being someone else's daughter, but you have a hard time letting your daughters wear what they want? Kind of a bit two sided no?

TentCamper says: SHUT UP!!!!!! I am know in the house as the guy that will, without hesitation, throw clothing into the trash if I think that it is too revealing. I am sickened by the way teen girls dress these days and do my best to show my disgust while in my teen's presence.

On the other hand, If there is a woman (consenting adult) who is wearing 'check out my tits or ass' clothing...if she looks good...why not look. I can say that married or not, I would never approach or be interested in talking to someone dressed like that because it tells me too much about their insecure and 'skanky' personality.

Yes...they are someone elses daughter...but that adult and their parents did not do a very good job at being secure with one's self and having concern about reputation and how you are perceived.

DadsWhoMockTheWorld says: Let's just say, having a daughter doesn't help that one bit.

CanadianBaldGuy says:

Not at all. I don't even see the comparison as valid.

How I raise my soon-to-be-teenager is my own choice (and the choice of her mother's). To me, there needs to be an "appropriate age cut-off" when it comes to dressing a certain way (16? 17?), but that depends on the situation and how the daughter is being raised (it's a discussion topic for parent and child). And in terms of "someone else's daughter", let it be known that I have no desire to look at a "hot girl online" if she looks like a little girl or a young teenager trying to be older than she is (ex: Miley Cyrus). I find that a little creepy, actually. So the question doesn't really make sense if comparing apples to apples.

However, if a 19-year-old decides to get naked online, that's her decision and her choice; she's an adult. I mean, every woman is someone's daughter. girlfriend is someone's daughter, but that doesn't enter my mind when we're in the bedroom.

Dadshouse says: I don't look at hot girls online. Women? Sure. But not girls. I didn't like the Miley Cyrus nude in bed pics when they came out. No double standard here.

Southern Sage says: Well I of course wouldn't want anyone looking at my kid for the purpose of being turned on but one of the downfalls (for some) of marrying beautiful people is that your kids might look like them! With that comes attraction. So I reckon I could wish my daughter would grow up to be 3 foot 8 inches and 673 pounds and few would gaze lustfully upon her. I only look at women who I assume consented to the pics and them being posted or sent discreetly to my inbox so no I am not bothered by it.

Hubman says: The question is mixing kids and adults. Keep in mind that my daughter is only 3, but when she's a teen, damn right I'll have issues with a guy checking her out. But once she's older and out of my house, how she chooses to dress and draw attention to her looks, or not, is up to her. Every chick is someone's daughter, right?

I've joked with Veronica that when DB comes home and confides that he got his first blowjob, I'm gonna give him a high-five and ask if she swallowed, like a good girl should. PP comes home and says she gave her first blowjob? Off to the convent for her!!

Daddy Geek Boy says: You have your answer right there. We KNOW how other guys look at women! Those women on line may be somebody else's daughter, but we don't know them or their fathers. But I'm not about to let my daughter become food for the hungry wolves. Girls have no idea what evil lurks in the hearts of men. Call it what you will, but I think it's as valid a parenting technique as putting a child lock on the cabinet where we keep the bleach.


ZenMom said...

Great questions, Shelle. And great answers, Dads.

I'm a long-time people-watcher, so I had a good chuckle over your answers to the first one.

I think most women can tell which other women are the skanky or easy ones, too. (And, yeah, they're not necessarily the same thing.)

You can also learn to tell pretty quickly which *guys* in a room are monogamous and which ones are "looking".

It's just a matter of paying attention - to body language, clothes, eye contact, etc. :)

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

WOW you guys DO know everything!!! I'm amazed.

I'm honored also to have a ask hot dads session all to myself! :)

Honestly loved all your answers.

Skanky and easy go hand in hand to me, but you are right, easy doesn't necessarily mean they are skanky, there are a lot of well dressed to the world easy women out there!

As far as the second question goes...I knew most of you can differentiate and of course no one wants their own daughter out there for the wolves, but some of you are saying when your daughter becomes an adult you will not care all that much because it's her choice?


Hubman...YUCK at swallowing! Not "like a good girl should"!!! Good girls would NEVER! You're horrible :)

Amber said...

Looks like these questions touched a note for the Hot Dads. Nice to see y'all answered with such passion and honesty.

TentCamper said...

All I can say is that inventors better hurry up and invent proximity alerts...that can detect when boys get within 1 foot of girls...then the parent's device starts beeping and shows the GPS coordinates for the violation.

ohhh.maybe I should invent that!!!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

LOL good idea TentCamper! Seriously! I will be the first ti invest! :)

Amber---i think it was the content of the questions personally ;)

Petra a.k.a The Wise (*Young*) Mommy said...

Good questions AND answers! especially the one about being dads and looking at naked "daughters" online. I can relate now since I have inappropriate thoughts about The Jonas Brothers, but right after, I usually think something like, I hope they are getting enough green vegetables on tour, or something else motherly like that - HA! I am sick, so very, very sick ;)

Barefoot Dreamer said...

very informative and enlightening. as always.

dadshouse said...

Shelle - I'm a single dad and I'm out there dating, and I love a sexy woman! I also like a woman who is intelligent, compassionate, etc. But sexy is hot. Do I want my daughter to be sexy? I don't think of it that way. I want my daughter to find a great guy, and her being sexy is part of the equation. Once she's an adult!

Daddy Geek Boy said...

Before my daughter was born, I used to joke that I wanted her to be really ugly...which would seemingly take care of a lot of my potential problems as her dad.

I was kidding, of course.

KiddosDad said...

It is forums like these that remind me what I have coming to me, luckily I have a few years before I have to start editing kiddos wardrobe.

CanadianBaldGuy, your everyone is someone else's daughter made me laugh out loud.

jenie said...

i am about to leave you a question re my post as well...and to my surprise, this post is somewhat related to it.

here it is...what say you about "marriage is more than 4 legs in bed?" visit back, heartQUAKES

hot russian said...

Don't question your friend first, just straight up get over your fears and ask the girl to come to the movies! as soon as the words come from your mouth, the felling in your heath will change from a troubled burden into a light "squishy" felling, well..if she says yes :D

Hubman said...

Shelle, you just go on telling yourself that good girls don't, and we'll pretend to believe you ;-)

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Dadshouse--i get that. Like I said, I have a hard time separating that in my mind. Guys don't as much. should believe me!!! I would know, I wrote the book on good girls!

Nonflammable said...

I know what some of my friends go through with their daughters and I am glad I won't have this particular worry.

I am reminded by one of the hotdads comments; evil lurks in the hearts of all men. My husband says this to me frequently, anytime I have to be gone, and to be careful. The comment is disturbing especially when regarding a teenage girl.

I'm sure my husband would be 10x worse if we had daughters.

LiteralDan said...

Of course it's two sided! It's the way of the world. It's a dad's job to protect his daughters every way he knows how, and a man's job to lust after just about every other woman constantly.

Women are just as seemingly contradictory because they are, after all, also human. C'est la vie

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