Marriage is the Present Tense of Divorce

Here's some Random Stuff I have learned through the divorce process:

• The problems you had in your marriage are not solved by breaking up. In fact, it makes them bigger and there is an added bonus of introducing new problems.


• Things that were mere annoyances in your marriage between you and your spouse (ie. being late, forgetting events, veiled sarcasm) become significant issues once you separate.


• Unless you put a plan in place to make a "trial separation" a trial of something specific, separation will inevitably lead to divorce.


• The older the kids are, the more difficult it is to keep them "out of it".


• Your parents can be far more supportive than you ever imagined possible.


• No matter what the circumstances are that leads to the break down, it will be "your fault". Either you committed the acts the ended it, or you drove the other person to commit them.


• All it takes is for one person to want "out"; you can't keep a marriage together all by yourself. The harder you try, the stronger the other person resists.


• The money you never had to take the family to Disneyland, France, skiing, sailing etc. will all be spent on lawyers threefold.