What is the ‘norm’ when it comes to relationships? I don’t think it matters if you are married or just dating…I was just thinking about …’what is the perfect match?’
I know that there are many different kinds of relationships out there and…I’ll stop here and say that I have absolutely NO qualms about mine…but what is the perfect match?
There are relationships with dominate and submissive partners. Are all relationships dominate and submissive in one way or the other? Can two people with passive personalities make it work?
I started thinking about this because of a guy that I have been spending a lot of time with (due to lacrosse). He is WAY dominating….and a bit OCD…and ADHD….and self medicated…but none the less dominate. He has two kids, two ex wives and a live in girlfriend. They all ‘serve him’ in one way or the other. Everything in the house MUST be his way or no way. Though on the other hand he is a very kind hearted and generous guy.
Anyway, I started to think, what if he got together with another person who was just like him? Would they get along? Or will he always need to have a Housekeeper as a girlfriend/wife?
Personally, Mariah and I share in pretty much everything. Grocery shopping, car pools, cooking, homework, sideline parents for sports, cleaning, laundry….everything. That being said, we do have things that
we are individually better at: I cook like a college student and Mariah more like a chef. I can take apart and build most things while Mariah …cannot. Mariah can grocery shop…but I go most times due to my ‘thrifty’ nature. (I sometimes go with more of an intention to see how close to 50% savings I can get…more than buying ‘square’ meals for the family.)
Anyway….Is there such thing as a co-operative relationship?
I think that Mariah and I complement one another pretty damn well. But is that my mind tricking me? Is one of us more dominate? Or is that not needed in a relationship?
Fine….I do see myself as kind of a stabilizer/smoother/balancer…not just in my relationship, but in many of my daily dealings. Is that me trying to be dominating in some weird way?
Does one party need to feel that they are dominant…in their mind?
Can two ‘jellyfish’ have a happy relationship?
See….this is what happens to my head when I don’t post stuff on a regular basis.