tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post6697154678479234760..comments2024-01-08T18:25:09.089-08:00Comments on Hot Dads: Ask Hot Dads - What's A Dad To Do?Captain Dumbasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02214826608461609241noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-58872199507152435392010-01-12T05:08:02.968-08:002010-01-12T05:08:02.968-08:00This made me even uncomfortable to READ. The thing...This made me even uncomfortable to READ. The thing that no one seems to be picking up on is that these girls may already have been interfered with by their stepfather and thus the aggressive physical behaviour. Having a talk with the parents may not do much if the stepfather wants to hide what's happening and the mother is in complete denial that anything awry is happening. I think bringing Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-68663190567060594732010-01-09T13:23:09.969-08:002010-01-09T13:23:09.969-08:00I agree with Russ. You need to address this with ...I agree with Russ. You need to address this with the parents. <br />She may simply have a crush on you (and having met you , I can see why) and need to have a lesson about 'personal space' at the same time. If you approach the parents in that light, perhaps they won't take offense thinking you are accusing their daughter of anything more. <br /><br />Ask your daughter if she acts Swirl Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18241915723936809627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-35468840995925096292010-01-08T06:55:00.318-08:002010-01-08T06:55:00.318-08:00Holy schmoly! This sucks. I also think it's a ...Holy schmoly! This sucks. I also think it's a crush/looking for attention thing, not necessarily abuse but of course could be. I would just make sure not to ever be alone with them and stop allowing them to hug or touch you. Period. If they insist and it becomes a bigger problem, have Mariah talk to the parents and say it's something SHE has noticed, NOT JUST YOU. First and foremost just Petra a.k.a The Wise (*Young*) Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01717981499965181200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-76924998081911722162010-01-07T17:21:31.802-08:002010-01-07T17:21:31.802-08:00BTW...i'm missing your visits dear! come see a...BTW...i'm missing your visits dear! come see also my newly constructed <a href="http://earthymsjen.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">earthy me</a>JENIE=)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14394393447362130586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-84727330840255752292010-01-07T17:20:34.755-08:002010-01-07T17:20:34.755-08:00if i were in your shoes, i may have thought the sa...if i were in your shoes, i may have thought the same way as you...that MAYBE this and MAYBE that. <br /><br />But when you mentioned of her "almost" touching you there, it is getting a lot more serious...and like Russ, I will definitely tell the parents. Being a parent myself, I believe that the kid needs guidance. that there is a need for more attention. and it is somehow a JENIE=)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14394393447362130586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-39714445999340091812010-01-07T16:03:29.810-08:002010-01-07T16:03:29.810-08:00No easy resolution here. You indicate you know th...No easy resolution here. You indicate you know the parents but do you 'really know' the parents. I did read through most of the comments and a general consensus is this behavior is not the norm.<br /><br />It very well could be an innocent girl crush but to be 'safe' I would talk with the girls 'candidly' and with Mariah in the room too. I would not get their parents Nonflammablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357613550175307025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-15248403438916001552010-01-07T10:19:29.762-08:002010-01-07T10:19:29.762-08:00I think your fellow hot dads are on the right trac...I think your fellow hot dads are on the right track. I suspect the girl is seeking affection she isn't getting elsewhere, and at 13 is definitely going through changes that she's not sure what to do with yet. Some of that energy is currently directed at you, her friends hot dad. I'd probably start by letting the girl know what you are and aren't OK with her doing. Be gentle, but Michael Blanchardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07287123153152932317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-89154978218930467612010-01-07T10:13:26.431-08:002010-01-07T10:13:26.431-08:00I think this child is looking for attention. Is th...I think this child is looking for attention. Is there a father figure at home? is he an appropriate father figure? i think you have to wonder why the child seeks attention... <br /><br />I would approach the child and say that your happy to have her play etc, but if the behavior continues than this will stop. is it possible that you can speak with her teachers etc other adults that also have Movie Maskshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09967537603015482691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-33746607495215310962010-01-07T10:05:50.037-08:002010-01-07T10:05:50.037-08:00Ok, I haven't read every comment here, but my ...Ok, I haven't read every comment here, but my gut reaction is this: You're the adult, she's a child. I think a firm, "Stop it, you're being inappropriate," should be sufficient. And if it doesn't stop the huggy/grabby thing, then let her know she's not going to be welcome at your home if she keeps acting like that. <br /><br />Does it make you look like a jerk? cindy whttp://www.poobou.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-8856887074128239792010-01-07T09:57:57.333-08:002010-01-07T09:57:57.333-08:00good christ, this sucks. and you're obviously ...good christ, this sucks. and you're obviously being given conflicting responses which can't help your situation either.<br /><br />here's my shpeel... i taught 8th grade english right out of grad school. i was 24, newly married, etc, etc. the boys were horny as hell and would purposely NOT hug me because of their goddamn boner. i was entirely creeped out but eventually got over it andMy Bottle's Up!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03049667386059818972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-66552030539309039762010-01-07T09:42:54.266-08:002010-01-07T09:42:54.266-08:00I agree with Hubman and Russ. If that doesn't ...I agree with Hubman and Russ. If that doesn't help, put your foot down with the girls. They obviously lack boundaries, which could point to them being abused. So, talking with parents may not be what's best. Just tell the girls, straight up, that if they don't lay off, then you'll have to have a no hugging rule. Let them know what they can expect, and that they can't expect ChurchPunkMomhttp://myembellishedtruth.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-13474688121653638362010-01-07T08:20:24.925-08:002010-01-07T08:20:24.925-08:00Carol T - These girls are NOT the geeky type. The...Carol T - These girls are NOT the geeky type. The older one is much more physically mature than most of the other 7th graders.<br /><br />The funny thing is that I have never heard of or seen either of these girls do anything similar to any other men.<br /><br />I am stumped!!TentCamperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00911767583033104298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-82621174700749183202010-01-07T07:35:59.940-08:002010-01-07T07:35:59.940-08:00Since you guys are friends, definately talk to the...Since you guys are friends, definately talk to their parents... if Mariah is more comfortable to do it, then have her initiate the conversation. But just be casual... letting them know you are just a little uncomfortable and wasn't sure how to handle it because the last thing you would want to do is hurt the little girls' feelings.<br /><br />If all else fails, I totally go with Canadian Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04974251468371326729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-55574836539092780192010-01-06T22:06:44.548-08:002010-01-06T22:06:44.548-08:00I am a female junior high teacher, and I encounter...I am a female junior high teacher, and I encounter this a lot -- with boys! Esp the geeky ones, who don't get a lot of physical contact with girls. Many times, I've had to just directly say, "You're making me uncomfortable." Yes, it's embarrassing for both of us, but it gets it out in the open. They stammer and splutter, and I say, "I know you don't mean Carol Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05603768093776958949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-6190125181830574492010-01-06T18:58:33.462-08:002010-01-06T18:58:33.462-08:00I agree with Shelle - don't talk to the parent...I agree with Shelle - don't talk to the parents! It will just send up creepy flares with them, or they'll get all defensive. Just avoid the touching with this girl. Tell her firmly no, and she'll get the point.dadshousehttp://dadshouseblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-87101436539458492192010-01-06T16:43:37.240-08:002010-01-06T16:43:37.240-08:00I would talk to the girls about what's appropr...I would talk to the girls about what's appropriate and what is not and how you feel uncomfortable. Their behavior is not the norm, although girls that age can be strange, but their behavior sends up red flags to me. Maybe possible abuse happening. Be sure to make yourself a safe person for them to talk to.<br />I would also talk to their parents and let them know what is going on.<br />I WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-45019645051122262582010-01-06T16:10:44.375-08:002010-01-06T16:10:44.375-08:00TC you will have to figure it all out yourself. G...TC you will have to figure it all out yourself. Great advice here, but you know the girls and the parents, do the best you can for you and your family. <br /><br />Let us know how it goes.Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-83465703517933380662010-01-06T15:34:15.658-08:002010-01-06T15:34:15.658-08:00Now I am all confused......tell her folks or don&#...Now I am all confused......tell her folks or don't....tell her/them no more hugs...and how?...investigate as to why - somehow...<br /><br />someone do me a favor and read all of the comments, organize it and then tell me what the F to do. :)<br /><br />I'll call you Doctor from now on if you do!!!TentCamperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00911767583033104298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-69019536626891441292010-01-06T13:24:42.620-08:002010-01-06T13:24:42.620-08:00Being the mother of two girls I find this behavior...Being the mother of two girls I find this behavior very odd and bizarre. I personally believe that someone has reacted this way with them and made them believe it is okay to act like that. My best friend was molested for 10 years by an uncle and no one questioned her odd behavior. This could be those little girls cry for help.staceyOnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-61605317199324100572010-01-06T12:02:29.595-08:002010-01-06T12:02:29.595-08:00Missty...Yeah, I was thinking the same kinds of th...Missty...Yeah, I was thinking the same kinds of things. I gotta imagine that your friend's story is the exception rather than the rule in these types of situations, but you never know. <br /><br />I think you're right, "no hugging" with a white lie reason is probably the best.DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-37753906598384855842010-01-06T11:56:07.068-08:002010-01-06T11:56:07.068-08:00DGB - the reason I stated no hugging and then make...DGB - the reason I stated no hugging and then make something up is - some pre teen girls and teen girls can be mean and hateful. I would hate TC to take a firm stand on no hugging, and these girls get their panties in a wad and do something hateful that could cause a bunch of problems for TC. He will be guilty. We had a friend a very long time ago have a similar situation. Even though he Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-77704682070856135672010-01-06T11:28:26.981-08:002010-01-06T11:28:26.981-08:00A follow up to those who have suggested a "no...A follow up to those who have suggested a "no hugging policy". Does TC owe an explanation as to why...even if the explication isn't completely the truth? Would it be weird if he suddenly said "no more hugging" and left it at that? Or is that exactly the point?DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-1192430734848687352010-01-06T11:15:08.716-08:002010-01-06T11:15:08.716-08:00wow I agree tough situation to be in...I say stop ...wow I agree tough situation to be in...I say stop being so cool ;-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-73642645588715703762010-01-06T10:30:32.375-08:002010-01-06T10:30:32.375-08:00Hey and another thought as I just hit the sent but...Hey and another thought as I just hit the sent button. I would document each time they are over, and who has been around they have tried to hug you, etc. It can't hurt to have a few quick notes. Something as simple as 1/6 sally and sue are over, mariah and dd are here, both girls kept trying to hug me, told them I had a cold. Then back document. 12/27 girls came over to watch tv, sally Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4292419876225917604.post-49888856325275647382010-01-06T10:27:06.284-08:002010-01-06T10:27:06.284-08:00Oh wow. I would not talk to the parents. I would...Oh wow. I would not talk to the parents. I wouldn't want them reading more into it then what there is. Or feeding the girls "did he touch you ever? Did he...."<br /><br />I would do the no hugging policy. Sorry girls I have a cold coming on, no hugs today. Could be a simple way to back out of hugging for a few days. Then maybe something else. I worry about the harsh no Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.com